I am a 32-year-old, father of three beautiful little girls, entrepreneur in training. I live joyously in the town I graduated college in and spend my days raising my children, exploring new enterprises and volunteering in my community.

In between, I struggle with right and wrong, like everyone else, and try my best to sleep soundly each night. As a father, I made some bad decisions early on and have spent many years making up for those choices.

Putting myself in that position forced me to not only think of my own actions, but those of the many millions of fathers in America and the world, who want to do right, but have found themselves between a perceived rock and a hard place.

I'm proof that a man can always fix his mistakes if he is willing to set his pride apart for the good of his children and society as a whole, and surprisingly, for each man himself. Absolute bliss has shrouded my life since returning to my childrens' lives. Their absence not only created a hole in my heart and made it easier to do the wrong thing, it caused a gap in my own identity to widen over time until I almost forgot who I was and what I was about.

No matter how long you have been apart from your children, or how little time you spend with them, remembering that you are in fact THE most important person in their life is all that is required to change these situations for the benefit of all involved.

Whether you are seeking inspiration to regain a divine place in your child's heart, or looking for empowerment through legal resources and support, you are in the right place. My road of fatherhood has led me to need both of these things in abundance and I hope my experience can make your paths less resistant. The past has taught me that while it takes our own decisiveness to get the ball rolling, knowing we have support and are not alone is nearly as important.

I created this community to support all fathers, but most importantly, those who are not currently in their childrens' lives. Your current position is understandable, but to accept it as final, is not. Not only will your children be missing half of who they are, YOU will be missing a part of who you are, and true happiness will always be just out of your reach. No rock, nor any hard place, is enough to make this an acceptable way of life.

I humbly ask you to poke around the site, read some stories from other fathers, check out the resource center, lurk around the forums and see for yourself how many others have been and are in your position. See how easy it was for others to reverse their conditions and the life-changing rewards that resulted from taking the first steps toward positive change.

I have been a "deadbeat dad" myself, the son of another. Yet today, I am in my own father's life and am showered with hugs, kisses and "I love you's" from my own children. My "door" is always open to any and all of you and I will reveal any part of my past.

In return, I only ask that you look honestly at yourselves and do your best to be who you were supposed to be. By reading this, you have already taken the most important step: being conscious of the fact you are not already there. For that, I thank you and wish you a pleasant road back.

If ever you need to reach me, drop me a line at aaron@dadviser.com and I'll personally reply as soon as humanly possible. In the meantime, enjoy the community, get what you need out of it and go be the dad you were born to be.

100 More Things About Me

1. I was born in Bellflower, CA, in May, 1975.
2. That makes me a Taurus.
3. I was born one day before my grandpa’s birthday, possibly my biggest hero in life.
4. I believe astrology is a true science.
5. I feel younger each year that passes.
6. I grew up in Orange County.
7. I moved to San Luis Obispo in 1994.
8. It is my favorite place on earth.
9. I attended Cal Poly and graduated in 2000.
10. I was a journalism major, but focused more on public relations.
11. I moved to Las Vegas after college. Don’t ask what happened. What happens there, stays there.
12. I moved back to Orange County after a year and worked in a private investigation firm for three years.
13. I moved back to San Luis Obispo on September 23, 2005 and don’t plan on leaving again.
14. I have lived in over 20 apartments in this town and unfortunately another one will come soon.
15. I love being a daddy!
16. I’ll probably have more kids in the future.
17. I volunteer in my children’s classrooms.
18. I’m afraid of only two things in life: losing a child before I die and public speaking.
19. I’m an active member of my local Toastmasters.
20. Reading is my favorite hobby/relaxing time.
21. I read nearly a book a day.
22. I’m an information glutton.
23. I read more than 15 blogs every day.
24. I spend an inordinate amount of time on the internet every day.
25. With the internet’s help, I will achieve all my goals.
26. I am a huge music fan and have it playing nearly all the time, even when I’m reading at times.
27. I also love movies and have more than 400 of them.
28. I’ve seen them all at least once.
29. Truth and love are my guiding forces in life.
30. Honesty is my favorite quality in a person.
31. I have been in love several times and still speak to most of my exes on at least a monthly basis.
32. I have four parents and love them all equally.
33. I was mostly raised by my step father Charlie.
34. Despite not being blood, I see more of him in me than my blood parents.
35. I have one brother and two step sisters.
36. I have worked since I was 12.
37. I got straight A’s almost every year of my life in school.
38. I won two spelling bees in grade school.
39. I didn’t miss one day of school until my senior year in high school. That makes 11 years of perfect attendance in a row.
40. I plan on running for public office one day.
41. I have a cat but his name is a sound, not a word.
42. My first cat died at 3 years of age on 9/11/01.
43. I have lost a very good friend to drugs.
44. I have lost a very good friend to gang violence.
45. I own over 40 internet domains.
46. I have a business idea for all of them.
47. My favorite book ever is called “Ask and It Is Given”.
48. I believe in the Law of Attraction.
49. I believe we are the creators of our own worlds.
50. Politically, I am a moderate as I don’t really trust either of the large parties.
51. I have never voted for the same party twice in a row.
52. I turned commercial radio off 5 years ago. I haven’t turned it back on since.
53. I turned my television off 3 years ago. I haven’t turned it back on since.
54. I do download some shows on the internet, most notably Lost and Entourage.
55. I haven’t been to church in over 15 years.
56. I meditate every day and believe in the power of prayer.
57. I love playing basketball, walking and hiking.
58. I read every single magazine and periodical I can get my hands on.
59. I have every issue of the New Times since I moved back.
60. I also read and study every ad in these magazines and periodicals.
61. I am an entrepreneur by nature and think all day long on how to solve problems.
62. I have not driven in six years. With the kids getting older, that will probably have to change this year.
63. I have had over 10 concussions in my life. Explains a lot about me.
64. I don’t believe in sickness. Sorry. I just don’t.
65. I haven’t been sick in probably 15 years.
66. I saw a UFO once. I really have no idea what that thing was.
67. I tell my kids I love them many times every day.
68. I hold my kids hours every week and believe it to be one of the best things you can do with your kids.
69. I play with my kids as if I were one of them.
70. I usually win :D
71. I almost always last longest, too.
72. I believe in the philosophy of “each one, teach, one”.
73. I also believe we are each the most important things on this earth. Without ourselves, what do we have?
74. When not listening to music, I’m listening to motivational speakers.
75. I hope to never have another real job again, though the bills do need to be paid somehow.
76. I consider myself a leader.
77. People come to me for advice on their problems. Non-stop.
78. I believe my intuition knows more than my brain ever could.
79. I believe everything happens for a reason, even the most unexplainable or hurtful things.
80. I believe there is a gift in every problem we face.
81. I don’t really like calling things problems. They are just the tests for that specific day.
82. I believe life would be boring without tests.
83. I love lists. I make multiple lists every single day.
84. I often do far too much at one time and subsequently don’t get enough done.
85. That is one of my least favorite things about myself, but I will find a way to harness it for good one day.
86. I believe every single person has something to teach us.
87. In a given day, I might have a conversation with a homeless person, the head of the Chamber of Commerce, a geriatric patient and an inquisitive tourist.
88. I love to talk, but not about “normal things”. I like to push the boundaries and make people think.
89. If the conversation is about “normal things”, I don’t participate and end usually end up reading.
90. I am almost to 100 positive feedback on eBay with a 100% rating.
91. I visit at least 40 different web sites every single day.
92. I buy just about everything online nowadays.
93. Groceries are about the only exception, but that will change in due time.
94. I believe I learn more every single year since college than I did all through college.
95. My favorite cartoon character is Goofy.
96. I can be quite goofy myself, especially with my kids and good friends.
97. I don’t care what people think about me. I pretend to be invisible and go on with my day as I see fit.
98. I believe I will live to be at least 100 years old.
99. I have used one of the same email addresses for 11 years now. Time sure flies.
100. I am mainly a homebody and can easily spend days at a time at home as long as there is food to eat.
101. I have a Squidoo lens about fathering in 2007. Check it out.